Just don’t say you’re “sick”
Posted by Ron Coleman on December 8, 2008
Some same-sex marriage supporters are urging people to “call in gay” Wednesday to show how much the country relies on gays and lesbians, but others question whether it’s wise to encourage skipping work given the nation’s economic distress. . .
“We want to get the conversation going in the community that gay is not bad,” Craig said. “For kids to hear that in a positive light can be life-changing.”
The irony is that the people who think they’re all about openness, tolerance, understanding, communicating, and open channels utterly don’t get it. As I argued a couple of weeks ago, “we’re” not “anti-gay.” We’re not against them. We don’t remotely think they’re “bad.” We are their friends.
We — people who, for example, may have supported Proposition 8 — just don’t agree with their political agenda, we don’t accept their perspective of how what they want politically is a “right,” and we aren’t prepared to turn over our culture (however much of it “they” are responsible for) to celebration, endorsement or even explicit acceptance of behavior that we believe in good faith is private, but either morally wrong, religiously forbidden or, for many of us, viscerally offensive.
They think we think they’re bad, or that they can’t do their jobs, or that we shouldn’t be friends with them. They think we’re “against” them, but except to the unfortunate extent they have allowed their political goals to be coterminus with their persons, they are the ones who are mistaken.
It seems as if we really aren’t communicating at all. And calling in “gay” isn’t going to start the conversation they want, because that isn’t the conversation anyone needs to have.
Believe me, I’m not obsessed with this topic, but someone is. And that’s the point, too: If you leave us alone, we’ll leave you alone regarding your private lives. Just show up for work like the rest of us, dress as flamboyantly as you like or as straight as you like, and really, we won’t think you’re “bad” or anything.
It’s a lot simpler than you think.